Monday, July 29, 2019

Playgrounds: A Child's Perspective

Do you remember the first playground you ever played out? Probably not. For most of us, our parents took us to a playground when we were just old enough to sit up and go down a slide with them or sit in their laps on a swing. Certainly not big enough to climb much or break some bone swinging on monkey bars. I have pictures of me at playgrounds long before my memory kicks in. In fact, I was five before I can actually remembera playground.

It was in Lewisburg, Tennessee at the Park and Recreation Center. I spent a lotof time there. The pool was there, so swim lessons and hot summer days were spent splashing around, doing cartwheels off the low board and springing off the high dive. (My second choice, after gymnastics, for a summer Olympic event to compete in was platform diving!) The tennis courts were there, so when Mom played tennis my siblings and I (with our sitters) dashed around the walking trail and played on all the exercise features. I had summer day-camp there, met up with Grandma at the golf course once or twice for some reason, went to social events in the community building and hunted Easter eggs in the park. Since it was just down a back entrance from the high school football field, on Friday nights we parked there and walked up to the field for games. After all, it’s the SouthEveryonewho isanyoneis at the high school football field on Friday night. And…it was also my dad’s old high school team.

Now the playground…well, like many things in Tennessee, the equipment was interspersed among lots of tall trees. No large castle looking thing, mulched or rubber matted area or a remote semblance of organization. The seesaws were in one location, the dirt hard-packed under the seats bumped by thousands of children. In another location was the merry-go-round, sitting proudly in the middle of the deep rut millions of feet had trampled over years of play. There was a “pick-up truck” made from steel pipes and wood. I remember at least one slide, maybe two. I think one was higher than the other, both were made from steel that burnedin the summer and they didn’t sit near each other. I think there were swings, but I must not have spent much time on them because I don’t remember them. One of those rounded monkey bar things I loved to hang upside down and flip off of. And a really old merry-go-round like thing that hung up on a pole by chains. Think of a maypole, only chains and bar that made a circle you could sit or hang from while it went around. I thought it was really cool, probably because I couldn’t reach it for years. But I do remember being able to at least jump and swing myself up by the time we moved away when I was almost nine. 

During the 1980s, that playground was quite typical. In fact, I can’t remember a playground at a school or park that was much different. Who knows how long it had been around. My parents had probably played on some of that equipment. And even though there is another playground now, I think the old “pick-up truck” remains. The fact that any of those pieces of equipment are now considered quite dangerous boggles my mind. I don’t remember any of my playmates getting hurt. I certainly didn’t, and I was forever flipping, cartwheeling and jumping off anything that could possibly be flipped, cartwheeled or jumped off. It was just a fun place to be. It didn’t matter how hot it was or how cold. It was always fun to play at the park.

I viewed it much like my kids view parks. They don’t think about danger, or falling, or the fact gravity even exists (especially Ethan). A park is simply a place to have fun, run with other kids, and imagine whatever you want to imagine that day. Just as a park should be.

Thursday, July 25, 2019

Tuesday, July 23, 2019

Happy Birthday, Daniel!


1988 – Katey, Me and Daniel

Thursday, July 18, 2019

Summer

It’s hard to believe July is nearly over and August is almost here. Which means summer is more than half way over and progressing towards its end. Already I’m thinking of the fall. Mostly because I want cooler weather. I miss the long sleeves, jeans, socks and jackets. I can’t wait for a chill in the air, actually enjoying a morning cup of coffee and runs that don’t leave me drenched in sweat. Honestly, two weeks of summer would be more than sufficient. Then an extended fall, lazy winter and quick spring. I often think I should move to Alaska.

But I do wonder where the summer has gone. It’s not like we’ve done very much. Ed had two weeks off (factory shut down), but aside from the two of us going to Chicago we didn’t do much. Yet it has seemed so busy. Maybe it’s the two weeks of swimming lessons or dashing out the door every Tuesday evening for ballet. Or that we can use the school playground anytime of day as long as school is out. And we do head over to the pool at least a couple of times a week, often walking unless Grandma wants to come, too. They spend a lot of time outside, too, which does keep them out from under my feet more. 

We have tans, and bug bites, and various bruises and scratches to prove how busy we’ve been outside. Emry has gotten better at riding her bike. Ethan just attempts to climb, jump or run over something different every time we’re out. Both enjoy the pool now, but Emry is very good at splashing and “swimming” while Ethan enjoys splashing in the fountains. At the waterpark, they both love the lazy river – although it’s not very lazy riding with the two of them! 

Yes, it has been a full summer with still a few more weeks to enjoy it. And then it will be a busy fall as Emry starts Kindergarten and Ethan…well, we’ll see how I manage to keep him busy while also attempting to teach Emry!

Monday, July 15, 2019

Ethan-isms

Yesterday after his nap, I had Ethan up on his changing table, changing his diaper. He was doing something that boys tend to do and I shook my head remarking, “Such a boy!”

He grinned, shook his head and responded, “Such a Mama!”

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While we don’t yet have him a real “big boy” bed, we have taken off one of the railings of his crib to allow him to adjust to the idea of a real bed. Early this morning, just after six I heard a crash. For the first time, he had fallen out. I rushed to his room and scooped him up off the floor.

“Did you fall out of bed, little man?” I asked as I wrapped him up in his blanket and sat down to rock him for a few minutes to settle his tears.

“And bumped my head,” he cried. “Just like the monkeys!”

Friday, July 12, 2019

The 40-Club

Okay, granted, I am not yet there. In fact, I’ve got a little over seven months to go. But it stands to reason that since I am turning 40 just after the turn of 2020 that quite a few of my friends are turning 40 either this year or next. And so they are.

Allyson turned 40 in May. When I called her to wish her a happy birthday and teasingly ask her how it feels to be 40, even she didn’t respond with her usual maxim: Age is mind over matter – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Instead, she made me swear we would be friends even when we were old, completely grey-haired and grandmothers. I swore we would…and realized that 40 was bothering even Allyson – if only a little.

Today another friend turned 40. I met Susan Stevens (née Kirkhart) our very first Sunday after moving back to New Hampshire almost exactly 20 years ago. My dad had “met” her dad on the phone via a homeschool connection as we headed up there in order to get a feel of churches, homeschool groups, areas to avoid, etc. So, we visited their church on Sunday and as our dads talked, Susan introduced herself and invited Katey and I to a Bible study she was having at her house the following evening for girls our age. I honestly had no intention of going. We had just moved, were stuck in a hotel as we hadn’t found a place to live and I had little interest in meeting new people. But Susan followed up her invitation with an e-mail to my dad Monday morning, reiterating the invite. My dad gave us little choice and off to the Kirkhart’s we went. It was Providence.

For the next four years, we girls would meet first every Monday and then every other for Bible study. We would prop each other up, talk through difficult challenges, pray together, study God’s Word together during some of the most forming years of anyone’s life. I met Allyson at that Bible study. I learned what it truly means to be “ready always to give an answer for the hope that lies within you” in that Bible study. And if half of us hadn’t gotten married or moved onto good jobs in 2003, we’d probably still be meeting today. Most of us would agree we have never been in a Bible study quite that amazing ever again.

Susan was one of the girls who got married in 2003. She moved so her husband could go to seminary. Then I would move. We saw each other a few times, perhaps, and stayed in touch through random cards and e-mails. I last saw her in 2011 when she was pregnant with the first of her two boys. Communication since then has been even more random, but she will always hold a special place in my heart. And if we were to meet up again for coffee, we would pick up right where we left off eight years ago.

Writing her a birthday card, I grew reminiscent, jotting down old memories that are now – literally – nearly half a lifetime ago. And that’s when it hit me again, just as it had when Allyson turned 40 and just as it does whenever I think of how close 40 is. It’s not so much the age. Or even that I’m halfway “up the hill” (or even more). The awe of 40 lies in the fact that I’m not really sure how I got here. Wasn’t I 23 just yesterday? Or if not that young, at least 30? It seems like yesterday I was back in New Hampshire, meeting Susan at a coffee shop to discuss who-knows-what. Or watching Allyson’s little Caleb toddle around, Violet crawling after him. Or suffering through summers in Texas, lovely trips to New Hampshire or wherever because I hadn’t care in the world, watching it snow outside my office window in Minnesota. It seems like my life has passed like a dream. Twenty, thirty and now forty!?!?! I never imagined I’d be this old. Never.

But, in the light of eternity, what is 40? One day I will live in Heaven where a 1,000 years will pass by like a day. Which is very hard to imagine. But also a wonderful thought.

Monday, July 8, 2019

Sprinklers

We have never owned a sprinkler. I guess it’s because we’ve never owned a house and while we maintain our yard, the fact that it lives or dies doesn’t particularly matter to us. Or maybe it’s because my Scottish spend-thrift ways rear their ugly head and yell at the thought of our water bill rising. (For, I confess, I have turned into my dad and am constantly telling the kids to turn off the water or go get a job to pay for it!) Either way, we have never owned a sprinkler.

This summer, though, Emry and Ethan have been introduced to a sprinkler and the fun it can be. At a Bible study small-group we attend most Thursdays, the family has turned on their sprinkler so Emry, Ethan and the other two little girls their ages can play in it. It’s actually one that is created for playing in, not watering the lawn. So, I learned, at least Emry thinks that is the purpose of a sprinkler: to play in.

Around here, spring was sopping wet. It rained constantly. So much, in fact, a lot of the fields didn’t get planted at all because they were under water. (So expect an increase in prices on anything that contains corn.) But over the last couple of weeks, that has ceased. Rain has been next to non-existent and the yards and gardens are starting to show the signs of a lack of water. So, our elderly neighbor across the street got out her sprinkler this week to water her lawn. We were getting in the car to go somewhere and Emry noticed it. It was simply watering the lawn, not a soul in sight. Which didn’t make any sense to Emry for…

“Mama,” she asked, “why doesn’t she have any kids to play in her sprinkler?”

I laughed. For in some ways, Emry is right. What use is a sprinkler without some kids to enjoy it?

Friday, July 5, 2019

A Picture

They say a picture is worth 1,000 words. I’m still not quite sure what this one says. But I laugh at it every time I see it:

 Emry, cousin Beto and Ethan enjoying a break from splashing in the backyard.

Monday, July 1, 2019

Ethan's New Quirk

Once upon a time there was a little girl who lovedsilk. It started, of course, with her baby blanket. To her, nothing was better than cuddling up with her blanket and rubbing the silk edges for comfort. But if the blanket wasn’t available, just about anything silky worked: her older sister’s vests with the silk back, winter coats, another sister’s Doodle-bears. She’d simply rub the silk, pop her thumb in her mouth and rest contentedly. But my sister Abby had nothing on her nephew Ethan!

Ethan, like my youngest sister, loves his silk-edged baby blanket. My mom made each of us a baby blanket, cross-stitched, quilted and completed with a silk edge. Now she has three bins full of said blankets, waiting for all the grandchildren she plans on having. Some of the blankets have already been marked as taken by my sisters. One even has a name pinned on it since my sister Grace has had the name for her first son chosen for the last twenty-or-so years. Since I didn’t find out what sex I was having, I made two choices for each and Mom delivered the masculine or feminine one after they were born. And while Emry likes her “Grandma blanket” as she calls it, Ethan can’t wander far from home without his. That blanket, stitched with red and blue trucks, firetrucks and helicopters is his safety net. He reaches for it and the blue silk edges any time he needs comfort or just wants to sit for a while. Thumb in mouth, he’s as happy as can be. Very much like Linus.

But while that blanket is his main source of comfort, just about anything silk will work in a pinch. I discovered that early on in his life when he was lying under my feet one day while I put my hair up in a pony tail. I had on my jogging pants, which he reached up to pull, discovered they were silky and immediately popped his thumb into his mouth and sighed happily. It reminded me of Abby and I laughed. These last couple of weeks he has discovered something even better: tags in his shirts.

His favorite shirt (with Spiderman on it) has this tag that refuses to lie flat. It is forever hanging out the back of his shirt. It’s one of those things I mean to cut but don’t dare do it when he has it on and then I forget when I take it off him. Rubbing the back of his head when he is tired is something he has done since he was first born. I think that’s how he discovered the silky tag. Now whenever he needs a moment of quiet or is upset, he reaches for the tag of whatever shirt he is wearing, rubs it between his fingers and pops his thumb into his mouth. Instant calm.

Someday, of course, he will grow out of this. (I hope!) But for now, it sure is cute!