Saturday, December 29, 2018

2018...the End

I have to confess that contemplation on what 2018 held and what 2019 will be has not been given a lot of time. I finally did get my Christmas letter written (and then promptly ran out of ink in the printer so the envelopes are addressed and ready while I await the arrival of ink…) and that seemed to be about all the contemplation I could pull off. I feel like 2018 has ended in such a whirlwind that the other 75% of it remains a dim vision of almost another life.

It’s been a year of ups and downs, but then, aren’t most years? I don’t know anyone who rides a whole year out on a high. There are probably many people who ride a whole year out on a low, but then I have to wonder if they simply can’t see the highs. After all, what is life on this earth truly mean if there is no future Hope – One Higher than me to look up at when I am low.

And as far as 2019 goes…well, if this past week has been any indication, it’s already got the dreamlike vision of ups and downs. Changes no one could foresee. Wrenches thrown for apparently no reason at all. Makes me nervous, leery and a bit afraid to face tomorrow. But with two kids bounding out of bed every morning ready to take on their day, one simply must face tomorrow.

So, today I will make two simple statements as 2018 comes to a close and 2019 slips in upon it:

God is faithful. He was in 2018. He will be in 2019.

And all the Christmas things will get put away. All the new toys will find a home. All the boxes will finally find a place to stay for this new chapter in our life. Perhaps in 2018…more likely in 2019.

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Christmas!!!

Well, it is Christmas! The wrapping paper has been thrown away, but toys remain strewn all over my living room. The kids are zonked out in bed after a very busy last twenty-four hours. And I should be there, too. But a few pictures before I head that direction:


Christmas Sunday – one of the better pictures of dozens!

Ethan enjoying his first traditional Sturm Christmas Eve dinner.

Uncle Caleb helps Emry open her gifts on Christmas Eve.

Emry gets her first real necklace (a dinosaur!) put on.

Ethan in the midst of toys, ribbon and paper.

Probably one of the favorites of the day: the Little People racer!

Thursday, December 20, 2018

The Sights and Sounds of Christmas

Well, I’m not posting any videos so I guess there will be no “sounds” of Christmas (even though there is always lots of sound in my house!). But here are a few pictures of our Christmas preparations:

We were still at my parents’ when they put their tree up, so…Grandpa, Aunt Abby, Cousin Beto, Emry and Ethan putting tinsel on the tree.

Hunting for the perfect Christmas tree. 
(Although Ethan was much more interested in running about looking for all the markers.)

My two little Christmas messers – oops! I mean, bakers…

After a long day of decorating…this is what I feel like, too!



Monday, December 17, 2018

Christmas is Coming...


The title is true. Christmas is coming. It will arrive on December 25 whether I am prepared for it or not. Which I think I am…maybe.

Our life has been a little up it the air the past couple of months. Moving from Pennsylvania to Indiana. Living with my parents for five or six weeks. Looking for a house to buy, but ending up with a house to rent. Ed’s cousin dying. My mom had knee surgery. Looking for a church. Lots of major decisions being made. And yet still trying to just live life. Emry’s schoolwork, naps, trying to keep regular “office hours”, Ed’s new job, cooking, cleaning…and now lots and lots of unpacking. Christmas, to say the least, has kind of crept up on me.

I did try to get some things done before I left Pennsylvania. Some of it happened. Some of it didn’t. It’s about the same now. 

As of tonight, my shopping is done. But not the wrapping. 

We did get a Christmas tree. It is decorated. Even my village is set up. But other things didn’t find their way out of the Christmas boxes. And I’ve still no clue how to hang the stockings or where.

Some Christmas baking got done. Most didn’t. Good news for my waistline!

Christmas chains counting down the days and pointing to a Christmas story to read each night got done. But I hardly had time to find any great new Christmas stories for the year.

Christmas letters? Yeah, I’ve thought about them. Even have one book of Christmas stamps. But I’ve given up any attempt to get them about by Christmas. They’ll be new year letters. And please forgive the flag stamps…

Honestly, I feel like Christmas is a bit slap-dash this year. And I feel bad about it, too. For this is the first year Emry has really gotten excited about it, anticipating it’s arrival and crying (several times now) because it isn’t here yet. Ethan doesn’t really anticipate, but he loves the Christmas tree and Ed’s train. I want their celebration of Christ’s birthday to be special. Instead, some days I feel like I’m barely holding it all together.

But maybe that’s the point. After all, even though Mary knew Jesus was soon to be born, I’m pretty sure she didn’t plan on a stable. The shepherds certainly didn’t plan on seeing an angelic host that night in their field. And the wise men went to a palace in search of the new king – not some little house in Bethlehem. Jesus didn’t come as expected. Which is why the Jews are still looking for the Messiah. But we know He has come. So even if my Christmas letters aren’t out by Christmas and the stockings never do get hung, we can still celebrate Christ’s birth. 

Glory to God!

Thursday, December 13, 2018

Happy 27thBirthday, Jenny!

Jenny – age 2 (or 3…she never did know she was two!)

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

Bureaucracy

Sometimes dealing with the government borders on the ridiculous. Yesterday I needed to make two phone calls during my “office hours”. First was the Massachusetts Board of Landscape Architects which is run by a state licensing board. I had a simple question and supposed it wouldn’t take long. Of course, first I had to listen to the million of options to choose from and when I finally got a person on the line, I began very politely to give my name and stated I had a question about a landscape architect’s license.

“Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,” was the lady’s response. “Just a minute!”

And then I heard elevator music. I almost took my phone away from my ear to stare at it. But then I remembered I was calling the state of Massachusetts. No one is friendly there. I guess I should have been grateful she didn’t just hang up on me.

Following that phone call, I had to call PennDot. We submitted a monster of an application for a Disadvantaged Business Certificate with them the last week of September and had not heard from them since a polite letter the beginning of November. We just wanted to know the application’s status and how long we had to wait for further information. So, I had the letter up on my laptop and called the first number listed. Got a busy signal. So, I worked on something else. Called again. Got a busy signal. Tried calling the 888 number. Got a busy signal. Worked on something else for a half hour or so. Tried again. Both numbers. Both busy. So, instead of calling through my office phone app, I simply called from my cell phone. And did not get a busy signal. Instead, I got the phone lady politely telling (for both numbers) that they were no longer in service.

I knew the Commonwealth of PA was badly run, but to not give the Department of Transportation enough money to pay their phone bill? Wow. That’s worse than I thought…

The numbers I tried were the only numbers listed both in the letter and on the letterhead, as well as on their website. Thankfully, I recalled we had received a more informational letter, searched through my e-mail, found the name and number of the local certifier and called her. The news? Since our application had been put on her desk, two of her PennDot colleagues had quit. So, she had their share of applications, too. We probably wouldn’t hear from her for the next step of the process until February. And that’s probably if she didn’t quit. Because she really was too nice a lady to be working for PennDot. A government run entity that not only can’t afford to pay their phone bills, but I’m guessing hardly pays their employees either. Hence they quit.

No wonder Pennsylvania has some of the worse roads in the country…despite the highest gas tax outside of California. 

Friday, December 7, 2018

Christmas Cookies!

Yes, it is that time of year again. And this year I feel like I don’t have to do all the baking. Of course, that may be because we’re only just getting into our new house. And even though my kitchen is 95% unpacked, I haven’t found my cookie sheets yet. And we don’t have anything but ketchup, water and yeast in the fridge. So, any personal baking may have to wait a week or so. Meanwhile, my kids have already been baking at Grandma’s house.

In the Sturm family, the first Christmas cookie made is the gingerbread – complete with more icing than cookie. These are always made the day after Thanksgiving. This year was no different, we simply had lots of extra little hands helping. Which mainly equaled sprinkles just about everywhere. Still, we made more gingerbread cookies than we can possible eat!

 Ethan’s first gingerbread making experience.

 Emry holding one of her cookies.

And then we dipped pretzels. One of all-time favorite Christmas cookies. This time lots of little hands helping, but not so much with the dipping. Except when they found a broken pretzel they were allowed to eat. Again, mostly it just meant sprinkles everywhere! Emry and her cousin Beto each empty a jar of green and red sugar themselves. So, if you find there is a shortage this year…well, you know who to blame.

Emry Sprinkling!

And Ethan admiring his masterpieces…while deciding which one to eat next.

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Our New Home

I have to say that hunting for houses is not my favorite pastime. In some ways, seeing all different sorts of houses is interesting. No two houses are the same. Some have some really interesting features (like, who puts a sink the size of a bathroom sink in a kitchen – exactly how do you wash a pot in that?). And they all take on the personalities of their owners. But the whole ordeal is exhausting. Especially when not one of them “fits the bill”. Not that we were looking for the house of our dreams, but something that would suit our needs for many years to come was our hope. 

Another option on the table was building our own place on a piece of my parent’s property. Not a sure option since the county hasn’t even yet given the nod to start the process let alone the months it will take to get through the red tape, build and move in. We were told if we could start the process today it would take ten months at the very least if no problems arose. With that in mind, we decided to settle on a rental house we had seen for the next couple of years – and pray all the hoops can be jumped through so we can build.

Located in the town of Lafayette, Indiana, it’s a rather quirky little place. It has three bedrooms. Not huge ones, but quite sufficient for us. One is the kid’s bedroom, another the “play” room (where Ethan naps) and the third is the master. The kitchen is rather on the narrow side, but it’s larger than what I had and is working out quite well. There’s a dining room (a huge plus!) with just enough room for my desk so I can work. The living area is large enough that I can have my chair back to enjoy. Although it has only one bath, we can manage. It has a garage and a fenced in backyard so the kids can play when it gets warmer out. The neighborhood is quiet, but also central to just about everything.

The quirkiness lies in all kinds of things. Not one room seems to have sufficient lighting. It was as if whoever did the updates was trying to be more contemporary than practical. The small addition includes the master bedroom and dining area which don’t get enough heat and with three sets of doors for only two rooms, is also drafty. Meanwhile, the kid’s room could easily be a sauna since there is a big grate right above Emry’s bed. The paint and woodwork are slapdash, but I’m not complaining much about that since I have two small children who put their fingers (and just about everything else) all over walls (and just about everything else). The oven has neither microwave nor fan/light above it. The garage door has no motion sensor. Some of the light switches are in very odd places. And one bedroom has no closet. There are other little things that just seem a little “why-this-and-not-that”, but all-in-all, it’s a cute little place and will do nicely for the next couple of years.

Which maybe how long it takes me to get all the boxes unpacked. With Ed having to leave town for several days and two small children to unpack around…well, it’s slow going. And then Christmas is just around the corner…sigh. It’s good to have a home, but it would be better if it didn’t include boxes stacked everywhere!

Friday, November 30, 2018

One of Those Phone Calls...

I met “Cousin Daniel” for the first time at our wedding. I knew about him. Ed asked him to be one of his groomsmen. For that matter, I even knew his suit size since I ordered the suits (although, don’t ask me what it was now). Having not met anyone in Ed’s family outside this parents, brother and brother’s wife and kids; I’m not sure what I expected. Besides, I was getting married that weekend. I had a lot on my mind.

But I liked Daniel. A year younger than me, he had been married for maybe ten years and had two kids – Chase and Molly. Although not real tall, he was real big. I mean really broad shoulders and chest and just…big. Like a football player. And really nice. You could just tell. Funny, with an easy smile. Joked with Ed and Ed’s brother David about “inside” things. Gentle and sweet. And sweaty. At least, that’s the way we last saw him. But that will happen when you Saran wrap a person’s car on a warm June day. (Namely, mine.)

A few months later, we made the promised long-weekend trip down to North Carolina to meet Ed’s family. Namely, his aunts Sandy and Carol and Carol’s kids...and their kids. By this time, I had been around Ed’s family a bit more and had expectations…rather low ones. In fact, I’ve never been more nervous about a trip. Or wanted to avoid one more. But I was happily surprised. And learned the lesson that you do not base your spouse’s extended family on your direct in-laws. At least, not in my case.

Daniel was there with his wife and kids, teasing his two sisters and playing with his niece and nephews. Asked how I liked being married to his cousin. Just a fun, sweet, all-around nice guy. Not very long after that, we found out they were pregnant with number three – a happy surprise all around when little Noah arrived. But then life happened.

Actually, that’s a simplification of the terrible things Daniel has been through over the past two or three years of his life. Things no one should have to figure out how to respond to. Honestly, things beyond the reach of one’s imagination. At least, in the world in which I live. I often wondered how he was maneuvering it all and prayed for him and his kids. For suffice to say, his wife left him. But not for another man.

And then today. Ed called me just after the kids got up this morning. He was stammering things that didn’t make a lot of sense at first. He was crying. I had concluded his Aunt Sandy had died and was ready for that news…but, no. It was Daniel. He and little three-year-old Noah had been killed in a car accident just the night before. And, yes, I cried.

Ed leaves for North Carolina first thing Sunday morning to mourn the loss of not just a cousin but a dear friend. And a little boy we never met. I’d like to be there to show support to that family, to show that I really liked Daniel even though I hardly knew him. But some people are like that. Because we’re family. Not by our own blood. Not even by marriage. But by Christ’s blood. So, there is hope. And there is victory. This sin-cursed world has thrown some awful things at Daniel and little Noah. But not anymore. They have triumphed. They are with their Savior. They will suffer no more. And that is true joy.

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Art Class

I always wanted to be crafty. But I have to confess that the only reason I liked the art teacher visiting in school was because it was a change in pace. I honestly can’t remember any piece of art or craft I did in school that I really loved. Fast forward several years into my teens and our short time spent in Massachusetts. My sister Katey had a whole corner of the attic full of more arts and craft stuff than you could shake a stick at. She even sold candles (among other things)! And I sat in my room scribbling stories like a mad person, wishing with all my heart I could freeze (or die of heat exhaustion) in an attic making beautiful things people wanted to buy. All I could do was scribble stories I’m still not sure anyone really wants to read.

But I’m just not crafty. Pinterest was invented for people like me who have to stare at a picture of something crafty and then make a prayerfully vain attempt at trying to re-create that picture. While I haven’t failed miserably at any of my attempts, I also don’t post pictures of my re-creations. And, I admit, I keep my attempts on a very low level. No use aiming for what I know I can’t hope to obtain.

Still, I am hoping my kids prove to be a little more crafty than I. If coloring is any indication, Emry is a hopeless cause but Ethan shows some promise. Thankfully, I have learned one thing as a mom: cut up some pieces of colored paper, provide some glue and a large sheet of paper and voila! Instant art project.

Still, I am trying to stretch myself. And I’m also trying to entertain not just my kids but my nephew on these very cold days in order to prevent them (and me) from going crazy. So, last week for Thanksgiving we made turkeys. And this week we made Christmas trees and Christmas count-down chains. Cut up paper, glue, sequins, a stapler. Not exactly Pinterest worthy…but, boy, am I exhausted! Being an artist is strenuous work. No wonder I never got excited about it…

Paper turkeys…


Christmas trees with sequins – everywhere!

Thursday, November 22, 2018

Five Minutes of Thanks

Looking back, I have taken five minutes to type things I have thankful for in 2013, 2015 and 2017. Although my form of OCD is a little off by messing with the odd-year flow, I think I want to make a yearly thing. Especially these days when I barely have five seconds to ponder, let alone five minutes!

My Savior. My husband Ed. My kids Emry and Ethan. My parents. That my mom’s knee surgery went well and successfully. My siblings – Katey, Daniel, Sally, Grace, Jenny, Abby and Caleb. My nephews – Jay, Curtis and Beto. ALLYSON!!!! My friends, especially Andrea and Tirzah. My job and the people I work with who appreciate me so much I get to set up an office all the way in Indiana! The body of Christ. The Plattes. A new little place to live for the next couple of years. Snow! Fall colors (even if they are now blown away). New Hampshire. Books to read. Books I want to read. Books to just look at. Libraries. Prayer. My Bible. Music. Color. Clothes to wear. Hope. Joy. Grace. God’s sovereignty. God’s unchangeableness. God’s greatness. The moon and stars. Watching my kids learn, and grow, and play, and making me laugh. Good food. Living near family. Exercise. Running. Warm blankets. Warm fires. Cold nights. Frost. Lilacs. Hot showers. Washers, dryers, vacuums, ovens – all the appliances that make my life easier! Memories. Paper. Pencils. Pictures. Light…

And these brief five minutes to write it all down!

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

1,000 Words

Just some pictures since our arrival in Indiana:

The Three Stooges? The Three Musketeers? Depends on the moment! Emry, Ethan and Beto.

Emry and Aunt Grace’s old Golden, Keats.

Ethan loves this lawn mower!

Ready for church!

Friday, November 9, 2018

We're Here!

Well, this post is a bit overdue. For, yes, we have arrived in Indiana. A week ago. But it’s been one busy week to jump start what will, doubtlessly, be a series of  busy weeks.

The trip out here was uneventful. Long, but uneventful. What is typically a seven hour drive took us ten. But the kids were good. Both slept a bit in the morning and both took afternoon naps. They read their books, played with their toys, listened to the Frozensoundtrack I don’t know how many times and generally let me drive. We arrived exhausted but in one piece and not at each other’s throats. So, yes, it was a good trip.

The following day Ed, my dad and my sister Sally unloaded the truck at the storage place. That went well, so nearly everything we own is locked away and we hope we don’t need to get to any of it. Because, honestly, we can’t.

Sunday we went to church with my parents and Monday Ed started his new job. Which has gone well thus far. Working for a general contractor is new for him. He has some skills in that area, but a lot of it will be stretching. Which is good. And tiring. But that’s good, too.

The kids and I are trying to keep on some form of schedule, which is hard when their little cousin (two-year-old Beto) is around so much and isn’t on the same schedule. However, he and Emry are the very best of buds while Ethan tags along about five steps behind (or completely run over). Going “house hunting” doesn’t do much for the kids either. I’m not sure who’s more exhausted after it all: my mom and I or the three kids in the back who will no longer be satisfied with fruit snacks and lollipops. Still, I’ve been somewhat faithful in getting Emry’s school in twice this week (although we practice reading every day) and they’ve been taking good naps so I can get in two hours of work in the afternoon and another hour or two at night when they go to bed.

So, while life is not exactly settled, you take what it is and run with it. And pray everyday for grace!

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Emry-isms and Ethan-isms

Sometimes I have to remember to stop and write a blog post about the most recent things my growing kids are doing. I’m not sure my readers are always interested, but my blog allows the perfect spot to record these things so I can go back years from now, laugh and remember the little things that are so quickly forgotten.

These days, Ethan is learning to talk. He seems a little ahead of most kids his age, but I think that’s because Emry is constantly talking to him and so he has learned to respond. Naturally, a lot of the “stories” he tells have little meaning to anyone outside of himself (and Emry who seems to understand most of what he says). But quite often I pick up on what he’s trying to convey.

His slippers are his “beepers”. He is quite proud of them for two reasons: 1) Emry also has “beepers” and 2) he loves shoes.

Pumpkins are “boppies”. I’m not sure how that came about. He can very proudly count to 3. He’s pretty good with the ABC song (which is Emry’s favorite so he hears it a lot). He can start, “A, B, C, D, E….M, N, O, P…X, Y, Z.” Skipping letters, I know, is what all kids do. I just find it a bit ironic that he knows “M, N, O, P” which most kids mumble together because the song picks up speed on those letters. He likes to “make” which means “cooking” something in the play kitchen. And when reading one of his favorite books about the Little Blue Truck he assumes the city in book is “Pizbur”. His favorite thing to do since moving in with my parents is moving the magnets from one refrigerator to the other.

Emry is doing very good with her phonics lessons and learning to read. Somedays I wonder, but just last week she got out her reading book and was teaching her doll to read. She wasn’t pretending, either. She went through the sounds of each letter and put them together in words. (I hope her doll was a good student.) This week she put her jacket on by herself and her tennis shoes. She can swing by herself as well. With all this maturing, though, comes being a big particular about the outfits she is wearing. We’ve had a breakdown two days in a row now trying to get dressed. One day she wanted to wear something in the wash and the next she wanted to put on an outfit that wasn’t mean to go together, although we made it work. I was simply too tired to argue about it.

But even with all this growing up, sometimes she is awfully funny.

A few weeks ago, she was sitting in my lap as I looked through pictures of a house the real estate agent in Indiana sent over as a possibility. It was an older house and had not been updated since the 70s, when the present owners must have bought it and never, ever updated anything – from wood paneling to green sinks to floral couches and toilet covers. I commented, “There’s carpet in the bathroom! Who puts carpet in the bathroom?”

“And look, Mama,” Emry said, “the potty is carpeted, too!”

Or the other day when I was putting her down for a nap in Aunt Grace’s room where she is staying. Grace’s favorite animal is the zebra and she has a whole shelf of stuffed zebras. Emry asked if she could have one to nap with.

“Which one do you want, Emry?” I asked.

Her answer? “The one with the stripes.”

Thursday, November 1, 2018

The Surreal-ity of Moving

Moving is surreal. It’s a reality, but it feels like a dream. I’m not sure why. Perhaps is the change that is so huge. Perhaps its how much work it takes. Or perhaps it’s simply because you live on four hours of sleep for about at least a week as you try to get everything-and-then-some done.

The earliest memory I have of moving is when I was a few weeks after I turned five. We moved from Corinth, Texas to my parents hometown of Lewisburg, Tennessee. The one memory I have is turning cartwheels in the living room of our home in Corinth because there was no furniture (aside from a couple of mattresses resting against the wall) to get in the way. Funny how the rules change when there’s nothing left in the house to run over. (Or, more accurately, when your exhausted parents are too tired to care about the rules anymore.) 

Today we moved. Or, at least, we loaded just about everything we own in a huge moving truck which we will drive out to Indiana tomorrow. Except for suitcases, a few boxes of last minutes things and bedding, our little duplex where we have spent the past 20 months of our lives is empty. And just this evening, Emry and Ethan were running about the living room in pure ecstasy of empty space.

It’s surreal.

It’s surreal to think the day we are leaving Pittsburgh has finally come. It’s surreal to think that I am not the child running about the empty house but that I am now the exhausted parent. It’s surreal to think that tomorrow we will be in Indiana, beginning a very new and, right now, foggy chapter of our lives. 

But it’s also exciting. It’s new. It’s a change we need. So, I will rest in that. And go to bed so tomorrow I can begin yet another surreal day.

Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Two Little Skeletons

Maybe I should start this blog with a disclaimer. As a family, we don’t “celebrate” Halloween. The idea of “celebrating” death and very terrifying things is not a thing to be encouraged. For those who do not have Christ as their Savior, death should be a truly terrifying thing. Eternity in hell apart from God is the most horrific thing that can happen to a soul. To celebrate that idea is anathema. The terribleness of it ought, instead, lead one to the hope that is in Christ.

However, we have decided to enjoy dressing up and trick-or-treating. The kids truly enjoy it, it’s a way to see neighbors we never, ever see and it’s a nice family time for us. At first, Emry wanted to dress up like a flower. It was going to take every tiny creative bone in my body to get that costume to become a reality, but we could do it. Then she started seeing Halloween things in stores, décor that includes skeletons. For months, Emry has been fascinated with the skeletal system. If we find a book on it, she will sit and look at it for a very long time, asking me (who hated science) what this bone, and that bone, and the other bone is. (Thank goodness children’s books are well labeled!) So, a few weeks ago, she decided that she would much rather be a skeleton. And since Ethan already had a pair of skeleton pajamas from one of his cousins, I thought why not. There is absolutely nothing innately wrong with a God-created skeleton. We just had several discussions on the truth about the skeletons God has given each of us. 

Emry loved being a skeleton! Ethan loved dressing like his sister. They both enjoyed an evening out, seeing lots of other people and who doesn’t like candy? Emry was very good and very polite. And in no time, even Ethan was singing out, “Trick-or-treat!” followed by “Thank you!” All in all, a very good evening. (And a much needed break in the midst of packing boxes!)


Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Being Profitable

I think most people would say I don't have any such thing as a non-profitable day in my life right now. Running about like a chicken with my head cut off, trying to check things off of about three different lists while adding to two others, attempting to remember this while trying to tell myself that does not have to be done before we move...yeah, it's pretty safe to say that every day is full.

But just because one fills one's time does not mean one is profitable. Recently I realized that I spend at least 20 hours a week working as an office manager. About half of that is at home. And I wondered, what am I going to do to fill that time once we're moved? That's really a lot of time well spent. And if Ive managed to squirrel that away in the midst of everything else (even moving these past weeks), then I don't want to start our "new" life wasting it away. I need to find some profitable things to do.

So, I started thinking about it. I've got scrapbooking that has completely fallen by the wayside since Ethan was born and Emry reached an age when she wants to "help". Except for this blog (that I am way behind on), I haven't written two words together except cards and work related stuff since, well, Ethan was born. I could write again!!!! Not to mention, I could have a more devoted school time with Emry, there is Ethan to get potty trained (which is going to happen whether I thing I have time for it or not) and my house could always use a little bit more spit-and-polish.

I mean, the truth is, it is amazing what one can accomplish in a short amount of time if one simply focuses on it. Today, a friend from church took my kids which allowed me five hours of packing. So, I packed nearly everything in the house. Everything except Ed's stuff, a few toys, the clothes and the kitchen. And I could have packed most of that, but it's very hard to determine what one still needs in the kitchen and what one doesn't need for the next two weeks. It was a great day...and I'm still running on adrenaline.

But while I've been wondering how I can redeem those 20 hours I will now have to spare, the Lord decided to fill them. At work, we have been looking for a new office manager. Someone to take over what I do, plus allow the job to grow. And I had several dozen resumes to read through, a couple of interviews and finally a second interview with the shareholders. An interview that was eye opening all around and led to, well...not a new office manager. Instead, it will be a new laptop...and a new printer/scanner...and a new whatever I want. So that I can work remotely and fill those 20 hours profitably.

I'm a little amazed. And grateful the Lord has worked it out this way because it will help with the transition as we watch the Lord fill in the spaces that don't quite line up. Something that God is forever faithful in.

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Playgrounds: A New Perspective

As any parent would probably tell you, one’s viewpoint of a playground changes once one has children. I now often wonder how many almost heart attacks I gave my mother on a playground. After all, I was not the child that serenely swung on the swings, climbed the round-monkey-bar-thingies or used any form of bar or four-inch wall/curb/whatever for it’s original purpose. I was the child who dreamt of being Mary Lou Retton. Which meant bars were meant to be flipped upon, walls were meant to be cartwheeled upon and open areas in general were for floor exercises. It’s amazing I didn’t land on my head hanging upside down and break something. 

Of course, playgrounds have changed dramatically in the last thirty years or so. Rarely do you find screws readily available for infections of tetanus. In fact, metal slides are almost extinct. Swings no longer have bars which might enable one to climb all the way up and dangle like a monkey. Merry-go-rounds are on the endangered list. For that matter, playground equipment that isn’t a master playscape is rather rare. But, in reality, I don’t think the dangers of play have changed. If it can be climbed, it can be fallen from.

But I’ve also come to look at playgrounds through the eyes of my work. I work for a landscape architecture firm and some of the designers/architects specialize in playgrounds. A couple of them even hold licenses as playground inspectors. Having looked at pictures of available playground equipment, seen specs on newer designs and read through surveys on what communities like and dislike in play areas; I’ve come to realize that a lot of thought goes into a playground. Some of it makes sense. Some of it seems rather silly.

For instance, in recent months I have taken the kids to a play area I really like but has what I would define as a retaining wall right in the midst of the playground. And what does my son want to play on? The wall, of course! And as I walk back and forth next to him in order to catch his little self should he fall, I wonder how a wall like that passed inspection. Because every child that walks into the play area is going to climb it. And if they’re Mary-Lou-Retton-wannabes, turn cartwheels on it. And how is that even remotely safe?

Landscape architects are also over-the-top environmentally conscious. So, one of them recently sent around a link to a “natural” play area recently opened just west of Houston. It included nature trails, little water falls throughout the flowing brook, swamp area, and a place with markers for skipping stones. The purpose, the designer said, is to get children to enjoy nature because kids aren’t “taught” to do that anymore. Maybe in inner-cities, but I certainly haven’t had to “teach” my children to enjoy nature. If there is water about, they want to splash in it. If there are rocks to be tossed, they want to throw them. And if there are leaves and sticks to pick up, we come home with a collection. Another of our architects responded that he couldn’t believe that passed inspection. Some child would fall into the water and drown. Mosquitoes would come bringing West Nile Virus and what about all the rats that would want to live there which would then bring the snakes (which, in Texas, are very likely to be poisonous…not to mention water moccasins). He also didn’t add that, being Houston, it was very likely to be flooded by some hurricane. Otherwise, he added, it was great! Given all those thoughts, I’m not sure I’d take my kids there…

But playgrounds are still the favorite place for kids to go. My kids are forever asking to go to the “steps and slides” and Emry prays regularly for “steps and slides and swings” of her own like at Grandpa and Grandma’s house. And, as a parent who was more than careless on playgrounds in her childhood, I take a deep breath and let them be kids. (And stay really close to Ethan…) After all, the days on playgrounds will soon, sadly, pass. And a retaining wall for cartwheels will seem a 100 times safer than allowing them to drive the car!

 A unique playground…the Pittsburgh Pirates raised money to build it!


No the cannon is not real…not that that would stop Ethan!

Who needs a playground when there’s a wall to climb?

Friday, October 12, 2018

#18

I can be a little OCD. So, I’m aiming for a round number. Seventeen was odd…and prime. Eighteen is better. But only two more to twenty! And how many people can say that?

Well, I can’t say I’m really aiming at twenty, but I’m certainly gaining on it. Twenty what, you ask? Moves. For, yes, we are moving again.

This move has been one I’ve been praying about for a while. The reasons are a multitude. I honestly didn’t think it would ever come to be. Even my mom has been proven wrong on this one: I did get Ed out of Pittsburgh! For not only are we leaving Pittsburgh and it’s surrounding areas, but we are leaving the state of Pennsylvania! We’re moving to Indiana.

The Lord has provided a good job for Ed there. We’re looking for a place to live, although it appears we may be invading my parent’s home for a little while. Some things are still up in the air as far as how the changes will really look, but all moves are that way. I should know. This is number 18. I can’t say any of them turned out exactly how I imagined.

But I’m excited. I’m excited that Emry and Ethan will be near grandparents who love them and want to be a part of their lives. They’ll also get to be near several aunts and one cousin. Even though changes are frightening, I’m excited that things are going to change. I’m delighted to leave the liberal state of Pennsylvania with their outrageous gas tax plus another handful of taxes I watch them take away from our paychecks but don’t apparently improve anything. And while there are a few things I’m going to miss, I know there will be new things to discover.

So, bear with me as my blogs may be few and far between. The boxes are piling up around me and I’m still trying to maintain life while I stuff things in them, keep Emry out of the empty ones, and keep Ethan from climbing the pile of full ones. Some days there just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day…or the night. Sleep? That’s highly overrated, right?

Monday, October 8, 2018

Kennywood

If you live outside the region of Pittsburgh, you probably have no idea what Kennywood is. (Although the people in Pittsburgh think everyone in the world knows Kennywood…take it from a non-Pittsburgher, it’s okay if you don’t.) In a nutshell, Kennywood is an amusement park. And, that’s about the gist of it.

I can’t say I’m an amusement park fan. They’re fun, but anything that spins too fast makes me sick and I always come home with a pounding headache. Ed, on the other hand, is a die-hard Kennywood fan. I think because it was a part of his life: school picnics, summer days, parties, watching it change and yet stay the same. I would have to say most Pittsburghers think of Kennywood that way. So, if you’re not from Pittsburgh and have been to, say, Cedarville; don’t try to compare. You won’t get anywhere. To a Pittsburgher, Kennywood is the best amusement park to ever grace the United States of America. 

Now, unlike most Pittsburghers, I have actually read a book on Kennywood. So, while I don’t view it through rose colored glasses, I do know more of it’s history than most of it’s ardent admirers. It’s rather interesting to think of an amusement park as having history, but Kennywood is 110 years old. And it has seen a lot of changes. To me, the most interesting one is the dress code. I can’t imagine spending a day at an amusement park wearing a long, Victorian dress. Let alone dressing my children in beautiful summer white. Ethan couldn’t even keep his play clothes clean!

But, we had free tickets, so we took the kids yesterday after church for it’s children’s fall festival event. Emry could ride everything in kiddie land and some of the other rides that were open. Ethan could ride a couple of things. My kids have amazing poker faces, but I think they had fun. Ed go to ride a rollercoaster as the only person on the whole train. And we had the infamous French fries and cheese. I came home with not only a headache but complete exhaustion that caused my whole body to hurt so I was out cold before 8:30 last night. Still, it was fun to share one of Ed’s favorite places in Pittsburgh with our kids.




Ed – the lone passenger on the Jack Rabbit

Emry on the swing ride.

Ethan “driving” a helicopter.

Saturday, October 6, 2018

This Year...Three Years

Three years ago, I first took Ed and 6-month old Emry to the place I love most on earth: New Hampshire. It was a chance for Ed to see the place I consider home, the locations that are special to me, the spots that gave me great joy and great sorrow. It is amazing how much can change in only three years! I don’t mean that my heart longed any less to simply stay there, or that New Hampshire itself has changed much. But Allyson’s kids are growing up – even Violet is taller than me! I have Ethan and my sister Katey has Curtis, which only doubles the fun! Or do I mean the exhaustion…?

But just to show you how much has changed in three years:

Papa and Emry at the apple orchard three years ago…

…and Emry today!

Only Jay could feed the sheep and goats three years ago…

…today the sheep and goats enjoy four people to feed them!

Jay and Emry, ages three and 6-months…

Jay and Emry ages 5½ (note the very important ½) and 3.   





Friday, October 5, 2018

New Hampshire!!!!

As the saying goes, a picture says a 1,000 words. So, even though I could say a 1,000 words about how wonderful it was to go to the place on earth I love the most, I’ll say several 1,000 with pictures:


Ethan and my friend Allyson’s youngest Morninglory picking berries.

Allyson’s Laurel and Emry became good friends.

The trampoline park – good rainy day fun!

Unc has three of them!

The cousins at the Boston Aquarium.

Me, Emry and Ethan on a carousel in Boston.

The cousins making masks.

A day of apple picking!

Emry in the flowers.

Ethan really wants this pumpkin…

This was as good as it got trying to herd the cousins – Curtis, Ethan, Jay and Emry.