Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Two Little Skeletons

Maybe I should start this blog with a disclaimer. As a family, we don’t “celebrate” Halloween. The idea of “celebrating” death and very terrifying things is not a thing to be encouraged. For those who do not have Christ as their Savior, death should be a truly terrifying thing. Eternity in hell apart from God is the most horrific thing that can happen to a soul. To celebrate that idea is anathema. The terribleness of it ought, instead, lead one to the hope that is in Christ.

However, we have decided to enjoy dressing up and trick-or-treating. The kids truly enjoy it, it’s a way to see neighbors we never, ever see and it’s a nice family time for us. At first, Emry wanted to dress up like a flower. It was going to take every tiny creative bone in my body to get that costume to become a reality, but we could do it. Then she started seeing Halloween things in stores, décor that includes skeletons. For months, Emry has been fascinated with the skeletal system. If we find a book on it, she will sit and look at it for a very long time, asking me (who hated science) what this bone, and that bone, and the other bone is. (Thank goodness children’s books are well labeled!) So, a few weeks ago, she decided that she would much rather be a skeleton. And since Ethan already had a pair of skeleton pajamas from one of his cousins, I thought why not. There is absolutely nothing innately wrong with a God-created skeleton. We just had several discussions on the truth about the skeletons God has given each of us. 

Emry loved being a skeleton! Ethan loved dressing like his sister. They both enjoyed an evening out, seeing lots of other people and who doesn’t like candy? Emry was very good and very polite. And in no time, even Ethan was singing out, “Trick-or-treat!” followed by “Thank you!” All in all, a very good evening. (And a much needed break in the midst of packing boxes!)


Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Being Profitable

I think most people would say I don't have any such thing as a non-profitable day in my life right now. Running about like a chicken with my head cut off, trying to check things off of about three different lists while adding to two others, attempting to remember this while trying to tell myself that does not have to be done before we move...yeah, it's pretty safe to say that every day is full.

But just because one fills one's time does not mean one is profitable. Recently I realized that I spend at least 20 hours a week working as an office manager. About half of that is at home. And I wondered, what am I going to do to fill that time once we're moved? That's really a lot of time well spent. And if Ive managed to squirrel that away in the midst of everything else (even moving these past weeks), then I don't want to start our "new" life wasting it away. I need to find some profitable things to do.

So, I started thinking about it. I've got scrapbooking that has completely fallen by the wayside since Ethan was born and Emry reached an age when she wants to "help". Except for this blog (that I am way behind on), I haven't written two words together except cards and work related stuff since, well, Ethan was born. I could write again!!!! Not to mention, I could have a more devoted school time with Emry, there is Ethan to get potty trained (which is going to happen whether I thing I have time for it or not) and my house could always use a little bit more spit-and-polish.

I mean, the truth is, it is amazing what one can accomplish in a short amount of time if one simply focuses on it. Today, a friend from church took my kids which allowed me five hours of packing. So, I packed nearly everything in the house. Everything except Ed's stuff, a few toys, the clothes and the kitchen. And I could have packed most of that, but it's very hard to determine what one still needs in the kitchen and what one doesn't need for the next two weeks. It was a great day...and I'm still running on adrenaline.

But while I've been wondering how I can redeem those 20 hours I will now have to spare, the Lord decided to fill them. At work, we have been looking for a new office manager. Someone to take over what I do, plus allow the job to grow. And I had several dozen resumes to read through, a couple of interviews and finally a second interview with the shareholders. An interview that was eye opening all around and led to, well...not a new office manager. Instead, it will be a new laptop...and a new printer/scanner...and a new whatever I want. So that I can work remotely and fill those 20 hours profitably.

I'm a little amazed. And grateful the Lord has worked it out this way because it will help with the transition as we watch the Lord fill in the spaces that don't quite line up. Something that God is forever faithful in.

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Playgrounds: A New Perspective

As any parent would probably tell you, one’s viewpoint of a playground changes once one has children. I now often wonder how many almost heart attacks I gave my mother on a playground. After all, I was not the child that serenely swung on the swings, climbed the round-monkey-bar-thingies or used any form of bar or four-inch wall/curb/whatever for it’s original purpose. I was the child who dreamt of being Mary Lou Retton. Which meant bars were meant to be flipped upon, walls were meant to be cartwheeled upon and open areas in general were for floor exercises. It’s amazing I didn’t land on my head hanging upside down and break something. 

Of course, playgrounds have changed dramatically in the last thirty years or so. Rarely do you find screws readily available for infections of tetanus. In fact, metal slides are almost extinct. Swings no longer have bars which might enable one to climb all the way up and dangle like a monkey. Merry-go-rounds are on the endangered list. For that matter, playground equipment that isn’t a master playscape is rather rare. But, in reality, I don’t think the dangers of play have changed. If it can be climbed, it can be fallen from.

But I’ve also come to look at playgrounds through the eyes of my work. I work for a landscape architecture firm and some of the designers/architects specialize in playgrounds. A couple of them even hold licenses as playground inspectors. Having looked at pictures of available playground equipment, seen specs on newer designs and read through surveys on what communities like and dislike in play areas; I’ve come to realize that a lot of thought goes into a playground. Some of it makes sense. Some of it seems rather silly.

For instance, in recent months I have taken the kids to a play area I really like but has what I would define as a retaining wall right in the midst of the playground. And what does my son want to play on? The wall, of course! And as I walk back and forth next to him in order to catch his little self should he fall, I wonder how a wall like that passed inspection. Because every child that walks into the play area is going to climb it. And if they’re Mary-Lou-Retton-wannabes, turn cartwheels on it. And how is that even remotely safe?

Landscape architects are also over-the-top environmentally conscious. So, one of them recently sent around a link to a “natural” play area recently opened just west of Houston. It included nature trails, little water falls throughout the flowing brook, swamp area, and a place with markers for skipping stones. The purpose, the designer said, is to get children to enjoy nature because kids aren’t “taught” to do that anymore. Maybe in inner-cities, but I certainly haven’t had to “teach” my children to enjoy nature. If there is water about, they want to splash in it. If there are rocks to be tossed, they want to throw them. And if there are leaves and sticks to pick up, we come home with a collection. Another of our architects responded that he couldn’t believe that passed inspection. Some child would fall into the water and drown. Mosquitoes would come bringing West Nile Virus and what about all the rats that would want to live there which would then bring the snakes (which, in Texas, are very likely to be poisonous…not to mention water moccasins). He also didn’t add that, being Houston, it was very likely to be flooded by some hurricane. Otherwise, he added, it was great! Given all those thoughts, I’m not sure I’d take my kids there…

But playgrounds are still the favorite place for kids to go. My kids are forever asking to go to the “steps and slides” and Emry prays regularly for “steps and slides and swings” of her own like at Grandpa and Grandma’s house. And, as a parent who was more than careless on playgrounds in her childhood, I take a deep breath and let them be kids. (And stay really close to Ethan…) After all, the days on playgrounds will soon, sadly, pass. And a retaining wall for cartwheels will seem a 100 times safer than allowing them to drive the car!

 A unique playground…the Pittsburgh Pirates raised money to build it!


No the cannon is not real…not that that would stop Ethan!

Who needs a playground when there’s a wall to climb?

Friday, October 12, 2018

#18

I can be a little OCD. So, I’m aiming for a round number. Seventeen was odd…and prime. Eighteen is better. But only two more to twenty! And how many people can say that?

Well, I can’t say I’m really aiming at twenty, but I’m certainly gaining on it. Twenty what, you ask? Moves. For, yes, we are moving again.

This move has been one I’ve been praying about for a while. The reasons are a multitude. I honestly didn’t think it would ever come to be. Even my mom has been proven wrong on this one: I did get Ed out of Pittsburgh! For not only are we leaving Pittsburgh and it’s surrounding areas, but we are leaving the state of Pennsylvania! We’re moving to Indiana.

The Lord has provided a good job for Ed there. We’re looking for a place to live, although it appears we may be invading my parent’s home for a little while. Some things are still up in the air as far as how the changes will really look, but all moves are that way. I should know. This is number 18. I can’t say any of them turned out exactly how I imagined.

But I’m excited. I’m excited that Emry and Ethan will be near grandparents who love them and want to be a part of their lives. They’ll also get to be near several aunts and one cousin. Even though changes are frightening, I’m excited that things are going to change. I’m delighted to leave the liberal state of Pennsylvania with their outrageous gas tax plus another handful of taxes I watch them take away from our paychecks but don’t apparently improve anything. And while there are a few things I’m going to miss, I know there will be new things to discover.

So, bear with me as my blogs may be few and far between. The boxes are piling up around me and I’m still trying to maintain life while I stuff things in them, keep Emry out of the empty ones, and keep Ethan from climbing the pile of full ones. Some days there just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day…or the night. Sleep? That’s highly overrated, right?

Monday, October 8, 2018

Kennywood

If you live outside the region of Pittsburgh, you probably have no idea what Kennywood is. (Although the people in Pittsburgh think everyone in the world knows Kennywood…take it from a non-Pittsburgher, it’s okay if you don’t.) In a nutshell, Kennywood is an amusement park. And, that’s about the gist of it.

I can’t say I’m an amusement park fan. They’re fun, but anything that spins too fast makes me sick and I always come home with a pounding headache. Ed, on the other hand, is a die-hard Kennywood fan. I think because it was a part of his life: school picnics, summer days, parties, watching it change and yet stay the same. I would have to say most Pittsburghers think of Kennywood that way. So, if you’re not from Pittsburgh and have been to, say, Cedarville; don’t try to compare. You won’t get anywhere. To a Pittsburgher, Kennywood is the best amusement park to ever grace the United States of America. 

Now, unlike most Pittsburghers, I have actually read a book on Kennywood. So, while I don’t view it through rose colored glasses, I do know more of it’s history than most of it’s ardent admirers. It’s rather interesting to think of an amusement park as having history, but Kennywood is 110 years old. And it has seen a lot of changes. To me, the most interesting one is the dress code. I can’t imagine spending a day at an amusement park wearing a long, Victorian dress. Let alone dressing my children in beautiful summer white. Ethan couldn’t even keep his play clothes clean!

But, we had free tickets, so we took the kids yesterday after church for it’s children’s fall festival event. Emry could ride everything in kiddie land and some of the other rides that were open. Ethan could ride a couple of things. My kids have amazing poker faces, but I think they had fun. Ed go to ride a rollercoaster as the only person on the whole train. And we had the infamous French fries and cheese. I came home with not only a headache but complete exhaustion that caused my whole body to hurt so I was out cold before 8:30 last night. Still, it was fun to share one of Ed’s favorite places in Pittsburgh with our kids.




Ed – the lone passenger on the Jack Rabbit

Emry on the swing ride.

Ethan “driving” a helicopter.

Saturday, October 6, 2018

This Year...Three Years

Three years ago, I first took Ed and 6-month old Emry to the place I love most on earth: New Hampshire. It was a chance for Ed to see the place I consider home, the locations that are special to me, the spots that gave me great joy and great sorrow. It is amazing how much can change in only three years! I don’t mean that my heart longed any less to simply stay there, or that New Hampshire itself has changed much. But Allyson’s kids are growing up – even Violet is taller than me! I have Ethan and my sister Katey has Curtis, which only doubles the fun! Or do I mean the exhaustion…?

But just to show you how much has changed in three years:

Papa and Emry at the apple orchard three years ago…

…and Emry today!

Only Jay could feed the sheep and goats three years ago…

…today the sheep and goats enjoy four people to feed them!

Jay and Emry, ages three and 6-months…

Jay and Emry ages 5½ (note the very important ½) and 3.   





Friday, October 5, 2018

New Hampshire!!!!

As the saying goes, a picture says a 1,000 words. So, even though I could say a 1,000 words about how wonderful it was to go to the place on earth I love the most, I’ll say several 1,000 with pictures:


Ethan and my friend Allyson’s youngest Morninglory picking berries.

Allyson’s Laurel and Emry became good friends.

The trampoline park – good rainy day fun!

Unc has three of them!

The cousins at the Boston Aquarium.

Me, Emry and Ethan on a carousel in Boston.

The cousins making masks.

A day of apple picking!

Emry in the flowers.

Ethan really wants this pumpkin…

This was as good as it got trying to herd the cousins – Curtis, Ethan, Jay and Emry.

Monday, October 1, 2018

Newport, Rhode Island

For four long years, I have lived in my husband’s birthplace – now also the birthplace of my kids. FinallyI got to share my birthplace. I think even Ed would agree that Newport is prettier than Pittsburgh will ever be.

Honestly, I think Ed was rather impressed with the island I can truthfully call home. It helped that we approached Aquidneck Island from the west, crossing from the mainland over to Conanicut Island and then on over to Aquidneck. From that approach you can see the breathtaking, million dollar homes gazing down on Narragansett Bay below. On a sunny, autumn day with yachts and boats floating in the blue waters below…truly stunning!

I must confess that I rather missed the days when I could simply roam Newport, enjoying the mansions, the cliffs, the beach and the best clam chowder in the world at my leisure. With two small children, the word “leisure” no longer belongs in my vocabulary. On the other hand, it was fun to share the place where I began life with Ed and the kids. And someday we’ll go back. I promised Emry a tour of the Breakers!

 Emry at Easton Beach where her mama used to play.


I love this picture! It was Ethan’s first visit to the beach!

Emry agrees – the Black Pearl has the best clam chowder ever!

Emry on the Cliff Walk.